Letter to Grieving Moms With Bible Verses
I have found over the years, 45 to be exact, that grieving is a big part of Motherhood. I wrote this post many years ago and is still the same today as it was then. I hope this Letter to Grieving Moms with Bible Verses helps you to not feel alone in your grief…because you are special.
Dear Grieving Mom,
Yesterday I learned of something that will change our family forever and I was again reminded of how much of life is spent in the grieving process. It is filled with joy too of course, but the grieving…I don’t think we realize just how much we do of it. There are the smaller things we grieve, like our little ones going off to school for the first time and then there are the big ones…
Letter to Grieving Moms With Bible Verses
I wonder if you realize that it’s just ok to grieve. It’s ok to cry out to God and tell Him exactly how we feel…He knows anyway.
- So to the Mom who wanted the perfect family with the perfect children, grieve.
- To the Mom who wanted a perfect husband, grieve.
- To the Mom who must work outside the home but doesn’t want to, grieve.
- To the Mom that just learned her child has a serious illness, grieve.
- To the Mom who’s child is picked on at school, grieve.
- To the Mom who is working through emotional issues, grieve.
- To the Mom who is caught in the cycle of alcoholism/drug addiction, grieve.
- To the Single Mom who’s choice it was not to be single, grieve.
- To the heart of the Mom who longs to be a Mom, grieve.
- To the Mom who lost their baby to heaven, grieve.
- To the Mom….fill in the blank…grieve.
We must choose everyday to realize that it is an opportunity to grieve, to feel grief to it’s fullest and move forward. Forward to healing, forward to freedom and forward to joy.
Joy is sometimes right around the corner and comes quickly but sometimes its slow, but it is there, waiting for us to grab on to it.
Because…Joy is not a thing but a person…God himself is our joy.
Though circumstances and people may not change and our emotions are up and down…only one thing is constant…
He loves us, He holds us, He saves our tears in a bottle and hears each cry of our heart.
He’s constant and consistent.
“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.”
Hebrews 13:8
My sweet grieving Mom ~ fix your eyes with me on the Author and Finisher of our faith ~ Jesus!
Look around today and know that the Mom standing next to you in the grocery store is probably grieving something too. Whether big or small, it is all important.
Give her a smile even if you can hardly manage it…because she may not know the One who is the Joy Maker.
If you are unfamiliar with the 5 steps of grieving, they are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. I did a little series on this topic if you want to learn more.
- How to Grieve ~ It’s not the Same for Everyone
- How to Grieve ~ The 5 Stages of Grief
- How to Grieve ~ There’s One Way Out
I grieve for a son who is going to be 39 on the 10th of this month and has thrown his life away to drugs and poor life decisions. My husband and I have helped him so many times, spent so much money on doctor’s to HELP him, bailed him out of jail, and raised his two sons. Yet, he writes me ugly letters telling me I have not done him ‘right’ and I will burn in HELL because I have failed to help him etc. There comes a time when you just have to stop and let them face the consequences of their actions. It is so difficult to do. Especially in these times when he writes some awful lies about me on FACE BOOK etc. I know people who know the situation know better, but it still hurts me that he thinks these things of me after all we have done for him.
We have 2 sons. One is a self made person. A doctor who put himself through medical school. He has not one time asked us for a nickel. The other son has milked us almost dry. It’s a hard position to be in. So hard that I am actually facing medical issues now caused by stress. I have faith in our Lord. I pray for my son every day. I will pray for him till I am gone…..but I wish I could see him turn around and be a man…..
This was so touching and full of truth. Mine would say: To the mom who’s grieving from Empty Nest Syndrome. I loved being a mom to four, all those years spent wiping noses, changing diapers, fixing meals (and eating last), reading bedtime stories, going to games, watching them go through the gangly phase, come into their own in high school and on and on. I’m so thrilled for them, and yet, I grieve for what was always our lifestyle now isn’t. But, God is gracious to give new hope, new dreams, and a grandson – so that helps!
Thank you for posting over at coffee and conversation.
Shari, thank you. Mom of Kyle Wilson Mead, 8/27/87 ~ 3/29/08 Forever 20. Author of Dance With Jesus: From Grief to Grace, released March 31, 2015. THANK YOU.
Yes, grief expresses itself in so many ways, uniquely to each person experiencing THEIR loss.
May I invite you to “join the dance” each Friday at #DanceWithJesus Linkup? I would be HONORED for you to share there, if so. SusanBMead.com/blog-2 each Friday.
Warmly, Susan
Aww Susan I’m so very sorry for your loss. :'( I would be honored to participate in your link up. May the Lord richly bless you my friend.
Thanks for Sharing this. I know so many women struggling with so many of these issues. Recently I heard about grieving for the loss of your health and I’d never thought of it that way. I guess there is a certain amount of grieving the loss of anything.
There is much grieving in Motherhood, isn’t there? There is Joy in Jesus, the Lord is my Joy, even when my heart aches. Thank you for sharing your heart and your encouraging words with us this Mother’s Day.