We have ALL been victims of someone or victims of circumstances at one time or another. The question is… After many years have passed, are you still “choosing” to be a victim or are you choosing to be a victor?
Victim or victor, which one are you? I know…it’s a really personal question. It’s a question that many don’t want to be confronted with.
Why do I even ask? Because I want to see you be a Victor!
I played the victim role for many years..blaming my problems and character flaws on others… Oh yes, I had been abused and had lots of problems growing up…but as long as I continued to live in this victim role..it was easy for me to blame others for my problems “today”.
The problem is that we never grow when we are “victims” We simply cannot live fully in Christ when we don’t grasp the freedom that He alone can give. As a matter of fact, there is a good chance that if you are still in the victim role you are placing yourself in abusive situations…so that you “play” the role of victim.
This is not something we do consciously but it is something we can easily fall into without even realizing it…
So how do you know if you are playing the victim? Well let me ask you a few questions:
- Do you blame others for your character flaws?
- Do you blame others for your irresponsibility?
- Are you afraid to make changes that might place you in a place of responsibility?
- Is it hard for you to make decisions on your own?
- Do you need to be needed..no matter what the relationship is?
- Do you feel unworthy to have an opinion?
- Do you have LOW self worth?
- Can you be independent?
- Do you live in the past and make up excuses as to why you cannot cope today?
- Do you wallow in self pity?
Be honest with yourself. Nobody is looking, nobody is watching.. Between you and God..
Are you a Victim or a Victor?
There is no shame in being a victim whether in the past or now, but you mustn’t let it define who you are today!
Let me leave you with this scripture:
“1 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, 2 to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, 3 and provide for those who grieve in Zion– to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor.” Isaiah 61:1-3
It took me many years to realize that this promise was for ME the very day that I became a believer. Many years!
I have another question for you..
If God has set us free, if we are no longer captives, no longer prisoners, and if God has given us comfort and we are a planting of the Lord for his splendor…
are we allowing anyone or any circumstance to put us in a victim role…from the past or the present. Let’s take responsibility and say STOP! Let’s be willing to do whatever it takes and STOP it!
I realize this is kind of a touchy subject…but the Lord really put it on my heart…soooo if you want me to continue on this subject I would love to hear from you. I am not a counselor…just a recovered victim…how about you…victim or victor?