I LOVE being a Grandma! I have never been one of those that have said “I’m not ready to be a Grandma!” I have a healthy self image and I’m not at all worried about looking like a Grandma either…Or am I?
I’ve had some funny things happen to me in just the last month or so…
One day while I was watching my daughters Basketball practice, one of the siblings of a teammate was sitting by me holding my hand (she’s only five) She began observing that the veins in my hand were sticking out. Then she began playing with these veins and finally she said “Are you a Grandma?” Hmmm..I remember playing with my Great Grandmas veins in her hands too and being so fascinated with them.
While I was Christmas shopping one evening, (by myself I might add) I found these really nice awesome fleece blankets on sale for $12. Not only that, they had all my kid’s favorite colors. So I bought one for each. Then it happened…Out of nowhere this lady comes right up to me and says,
“Oh I love these kind of blankets..they are so soft and cuddly! Are you buying these for your Grandchildren?”
What??? My Grandchildren?? Why would she think these blankets were for my Grandchildren and not for my children..
All kinds of questions began in my head. Do I look old? Is it my graying hair? Is it my weight gain? Do only Grandmas buy blankets for children for Christmas? What was it? I had never seen this woman before in my life..She then scurried off and said “Merry Christmas!” UUhhh Merry Christmas to you too.
I mean I know I have more snow on the roof than last year but I didn’t think I looked quite like a Grandma?
The other day I was watching “Sid the Science Kid” with my sweet little Grandson..he loves that show. I was surprised at how irritated I felt when I saw Sid’s Grandma. I had seen her many times before…but this time…was different.
I wondered why this program was portraying her so frumpy and heavy set. Now I know that Grandma’s come in all shapes and sizes. I truly never think of anyone and there body shape or size when I meet them..but for some reason I wondered WHY Grandmas always seem to be portrayed as heavy and unfit! It really bugged me!
The kind of Grandma I want to be is fit and full of energy. Able to enjoy many, many years ahead with my Grandchildren…if the Lord wills. I want to be an example to my Grandchildren of healthy living.
So I can tell you that after praying about this irritation and the recent series of reactions and comments that I have received, I came to realize why I was so irritated.
In this last year and a half I have gained 20 lbs! My little muffin top has turned into a spare tire! Acckk! How did that happen? My hair really HAS become more gray AND the veins in my hands ARE popping out!
You know, there are things that are under our control and some that are not. I can be a fit Grandma, but I can’t stop my hair from greying and I can’t stop my veins from popping out. I’m not one to dye my hair..can’t afford that regimen. So acceptance is the next best thing.
My reactions to these situations have caught me a bit off guard to say the least. The good news…these are the kinds of things that bring me to my knees, before my Lord, and remind me who I really am and the reality of my human frailty….that true beauty comes from the inside out..not the outside in. This is my “new” healthy self image for Grandma…
“Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained by a righteous life.” Proverbs 16:31
Tell me the best things you remember about your Grandma or if you didn’t have a Grandma..the kind of person you would have liked her to be?