Wife, Mom, Step Mom, Grandma, just to name a few of my most important roles and titles. I used to have a pre-conceived idea of what each of these roles entailed and although I have different kinds of relationships within each role, I have learned that the most important thing is to, just be me!
Over the years I have grown in all of my roles and tried so hard to be all that I “thought” I was “suppose” to be, I admit I have been guilty of comparing myself to others and then trying to be just like them. Now I think it is perfectly ok to have mentors and read great books about being a great Wife, Mom, Step Mom, Grandma (as a matter of fact I recommend this) but these must be tools to becoming who God created “ME” to be.
I once had a friend that I sooo admired. She had the perfect life as far as I was concerned. A Mother of many, that were all very well behaved. She always ground her own wheat and baked her own bread…well you get the picture. I would often go to her for advice for lot’s of different things.
The problem…..because of my own insecurities, instead of using these suggestions to become all that God created “ME” to be, I began to compare and idolize her and her life. Failing to live up to my own expectations I became very depressed. I began to ask God things like “why did you make me like this?” “why can’t my life look like her life?”
God’s answer to me:
“I created you to be you Shari and not anyone else!” Well I’d like to say that I snapped right out of it, but the truth is that it took me many years to learn just who Shari is…to learn to “just be me” Because of my past I had many issues to work through to be freed to be me!
I have freedom in Christ today that I have not ever experienced before, because although I have many roles I’m still just plain ol me, and in God’s eyes, that’s just right.