Motherhood is a roller coaster…every single mother knows this, we work so hard to create the very best life for our kids. We pray, we work, we discipline and encourage…Mothering is such a blessing…but sometimes life doesn’t go as planned and the unexpected can happen, leaving us confused and disappointed at this whole motherhood thing. This has happened many times throughout my 40 years of mothering…but there is one story I never ever tell a pregnant woman..
Are babies worth it? YES they are!!
I’m humbled to partner with The Honest Company and share a very special birth story…
The story I never ever tell a pregnant woman…
I’ve been working very closely with a teacher in an special education setting with our local school district. Special education lends itself to a more intimate setting because we have to work so closely regarding student behavior and management, so we get to know each other very well. My teacher will be having a baby in the next few weeks…although it looks like sooner! LOL
We’ve all been sharing our birth stories, comparing notes…you know, the good and “not so good” things about pregnancy and childbirth. I think we’ve covered just about everything from healthy foods… not healthy foods, what are the BEST prenatal vitamins , clothing…and then those intimate umm TMI type of details!
Let’s make a looong story short…sort of..
When my husband and I got married, 30 years ago, he had two children and I had two children. Ages 9, 10, 11, 12.
When our older children were almost all grown and out of the house (all except one) my husband began to suggest that we have children together. WHAT! I thought he was kidding. tanning beds But after he mentioned it several times I began to realize that he was serious.
So I began to pray about it. I really felt that God did not want me to keep this area from my husband. I thought God was kidding too! But I knew in my heart what God was asking of me.
I was pretty young, 36, So with much more prayer I gave in to God and my Husband. And as Martha Stewart would say “It’s a Good Thing”
Oh there was just One little problem, my tubes were tied. They had been tied for SIXTEEN years. Miraculously God provided the finances for a tubal reversal. After I had my tubal reversal… guess what, 2 months later I was pregnant with our little Noah.
Now my first 2 girls had been delivered cesarean and I was determined that if I could, I would deliver my Noah V-back (that mean vaginal after a c-section).
What Happened Next…
I happened to find a book at a garage sale about natural childbirth and I became absolutely in LOVE with every aspect of homebirth. I planned out my homebirth to the smallest detail. I even rented a birthing tub!
Everything was going to be perfect…
Of course it was going to be…because I had felt that I listened and obeyed God…and it was a good thing.
Well…things did NOT go well and needless to say I ended up in the hospital after 48 hours of hard labor. I was bed ridden for 2 months after the birth…and that’s all I will say…LOL
See why I don’t tell that story to pregnant women?!
But I will tell you…
I was SO MAD AT GOD!!
Things had NOT gone as I planned…how perfectly I KNEW God must have wanted it to go….The unexpected had happened and I was filled with doubt, confusion, bitterness and anger. Not to mention…pain.
Over the next couple of months I would wrestle with God and myself. My beliefs, my faith…my health…my anger and disappointment.
Want to know something…it was one of those turning points for me…it was one of those deeper than deep moments in my faith. I could go way on about that but I won’t…it’s long!
I can tell you…
I don’t think I have ever had such high expectations dashed into the ground…but I’m not in charge and I’m totally ok with that.
The good news…I went on to have 2 more babies after that and they were beautiful home births.
One of the most important things I did…
I took super good care of myself and I took good care of my baby Noah. Using products that were pure, clean and natural! Eating the very best I could manage to eat! Loving my body and the hard work it had done. Mostly just being ok with how my pregnancy and birth had gone.
There is no perfect way to have a baby. Some are born in hospitals, some at home, some on the side of freeways, some in fields in far away country’s. However as moms, we all share the same desire to give our new babies the very best and to be well ourselves.
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Have a blessed day!