This post is brought to you by UP, but all thoughts and opinions are my own.
I did not grow up in a family that made moments special. As a matter of fact I’ve had birthdays come and go without so much as a boo. That was when I was young…very young. These days I have lots of celebrations and fun and try to make the most of every moment.
Something happened though in those day of growing up, I’m not a psychologist obviously, BUT it has been a lot of hard work and intentional living learning to make people matter, moments matter and just plain everyday matter. I think when you grow up in a home where you are not celebrated, you just get used to the fact that you don’t really matter.
Of course this is not true, but children live what they learn.
The good news… Everyone matters AND we can change!
My older kids got more of the raw deal of me not knowing how to celebrate and make life count. Mostly because I was an alcoholic when they were very young and then in early recovery as they grew up. Oh I got better and better as the years went by and they would say I’m a wonderful Mom…(below is a quote one of my daughters posted on my timeline on Mothers Day)
“To my mom Shari Lynne who is one of the most amazing women that I know – caring, hilarious, humble, patient, and always showing a never wavering love for her kids.”
Yet …I will always regret those days of non celebration.
Bringing up Bates has many examples of how to make moments matter. From celebrating a new baby to buying a wedding gown…it’s all a special moment.
Making moments matter doesn’t have to be any more than taking a child out for an ice cream cone… I love this cute clip from Bringing Up Bates.
If you are like me and you haven’t always known how to make people matter…give yourself a break.
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One of my favorite verses…so much love and care and protection for His beloved…um that’s YOU!
“But now, this is what the Lord says—he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” Isaiah 43:1-2
Insert your name my friend… YOU MATTER!
Our moments are simple, but meaningful…
- On birthdays we go around the table and each person shares what they love the best about the birthday person! Very uplifting when your brothers and sisters say great things about you!
- We keep small photo books of special occasions. Instead of keeping one huge book of every picture with every occasion, we have small ones with just one event in them.
- We go out on little dates…like the Bates fam.
What simple things do you do to make people feel special?