Parenting Plan: Offense or Defense?


Not long ago we were at a dinner with a group of people all having a very interesting conversation.  We were having a discussion regarding  “schooling.”  In other words,   were my children in public school or did we homeschool.

We have homeschooled,   Christian schooled and are presently public schooling.  When I shared that our children were presently in the public school the response from one of the father’s was,  “Wow,  you must have to play defense all the time!”  Well being the sports savvy Mom that I am,  I smiled with confidence and said  “Absolutely not,   we are on the offense most the time actually.”

So before I go any further,  if you are wondering what in the heck  “offense” and  “defense”  means… let me explain.  You see I was kidding about being a sports savvy Mom!  I am just getting the hang of the lingo after many years of watching my kids play sports.

Offense:  In sports,   offense,   also known as attack,   is the action of attacking or engaging an opposing team with the objective of scoring points or goals.

In other words the OFFENSE has a plan of action  for scoring/winning – my definition  Smile

Defense:  the action of protecting oneself,  one’s goal,  or one’s allotted part of the playing area against an opponent’s attacks

In other words the DEFENSE is protecting itself  from attack – my definition  Smile

I was so pleased to report that my kids are on the offense!   Our family has decided to be leaders and life changers.   Movers and Shakers!  They have a game plan with all the rules for this offensive strategy to WIN the game and to win the hearts of there peers..  it is the Word of God,   the Bible.

They are fueled with Holy Spirit power and dressed in full armor for battle!  They do not need to fear when on that rare occasion they need to play defense,   because they have practiced the plays and know them by heart.  They stand firm and hold there ground.  They do not crumble when the defending team try’s there defensive strategies of this world!

So whether you homeschool,   private school,   public school…teach your children the offensive plays from the RULE book…the Word of God and they will be the Champions!!


light shine

“You are the light of the world.  A city on a hill cannot be hidden.  Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl.  Instead they put it on its stand,  and it gives light to everyone in the house.  In the same way,   let your light shine before men,   that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven”  Matt.  5:14-16


Tell me,  does your parenting plan include offensive plays?


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  1. says


    Our oldest said, “You have taught me that I need to be a light in the world. How can I shine it if I don’t ever go anywhere?” He’s brought a couple dozen kids to church since starting high school and he stands up for the bullied kids. I’m proud of the young man he is becoming and am honored to be called his mom!

  2. says

    Our sons, now 29 and 31, began their schooling attending a Christian school. When the Christian school was not able to manage our older son’s ADHD, we (reluctantly) put him in public school – along with our other son.
    I completely understand the offensive approach. Our younger son Rob wore Christian T shirts every day to school. Some of the students nicknamed him ‘little preacher.’ But everyone knew what Rob stood for – Christ.
    When Rob became the drum major of the school band, he asked me if we could have daily devotions together.
    He wanted to be a godly leader of the band.
    Public school provides a different kind of training for Christians.
    Rob is now a doctor, married to a doctor. He and his wife are very active in their church.
    Public school certainly didn’t hinder their walk with the Lord.
    I’ve taught in both Christian and public schools. I know there is certainly a need for Christians in our public schools!

    • says

      Excellent Vicki! I love stories like that. I think every school setting has it’s challenges, it’s what we teach our children to do with those situations. How we teach our children to walk there talk! Thanks so much for stopping by!

  3. says

    Hmm. Clearly I’m doing something wrong. I homeschool and feel like it’s all defense! 😉 We had a character building day today. We didn’t get all of our school work done, but hopefully progress was made!

    • says

      No way Esther! Actually there is alot of training when they are so young… and we do have to defend against so much evil stuff and protect them from alot of things, BUT there will come a time when you will let them go and it will be sooo awesome to see them put all your training from the ‘RULE’ book into play. THEN they will be on the offensive! It will happen..”Train up a child in the way they should go…” Right :) ?
      Blessings to you and keep up the awesome Mommy job!!

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