There are so many things to consider when being a parent, a Mom , aren’t there? I mean so many responsibilities, so many choices, so much heart work in ourselves and in our children. When to say yes..when to say no..when to say wait..
Then there are the times when we have to make the choice to step in or step back..
Mom, Mother, Mama..It’s an Action Word..When to Step In
The questions that swirl around in our head..will this damage my child for good if do something?..will it damage my child for good if I don’t do something?
Sometimes instinct and the Holy Spirit overpowers us and we as Moms just know what to do..and then there are times when it’s not clear..we seek the Lord and we are just not sure…But there’s that stirring..the stirring that keeps you awake at night..the stirring that causes you to cry and your faith to grow…
Then you have to decide..to decide if the consequences of keeping your mouth shut or not keeping it shut is worth the risk..either way..
To take a step of faith…
So I did it .. it just poured out..I wrote it all out (of course because I love to write…I couldn’t help it)…then you know what I did? I hit send…but not without my daughters approval..
Just to let you know..that I think it was TOTALLY INAPPROPRIATE that my daughter was sent in to play the last tournament game 20 seconds before the game was over.
Just to let you know..that I think telling her that it’s nothing against them for not going in because the current girls were just “clicking” is TOTALLY INAPPROPRIATE..especially when all the other girls were subbed in and out..even if for a short period of time.
Just to let you know…that you cannot justify to a 14 year old girl that waits ALL YEAR LONG to play ———- to beat the socks off of them..that they are part of the “TEAM” when they sit on the bench.
Just to let you know…a medal means 0 unless it’s earned
Just to let you know..that the last year of select ball and Seaside will forever be marred in the heart of a 14 girl
Just to let you know…that a 14 year old girl feels HUMILIATED to be sent in to play the LAST 20 seconds of a game
Just to let you know..that a 14 year old girl is CONFUSED by why you would sent her in to play the last 27 seconds of a game..and so is the parent.
Just to let you know…a 14 year old girl doesn’t want equal playing time..doesn’t want all the playing time..but wants a little amount of playing time (27 seconds does not count as a “little”)
Just to let you know… that a 14 year old girl is not motivated to work her butt off at practice to sit on the bench
Just to let you know…that a parent does not want to drive their kids to practice..give up vacations..work overtime..take VERY LONG TRIPS to watch their daughter sit on the bench and have her heart broken and watch coaches make up excuses as to why this is ok.
Just to let you know…that a 14 year old does not have her confidence built up by watching others play the game
Just to let you know…that a 14 year old girl does not believe you when you tell her that you have confidence in her playing but don’t back up your words with action.
Just to let you know..that a 14 year old girl will overcome, excel, succeed in the game of Basketball because of her love for the game..not because of the politics behind it.
Just to let you know…a 14 year old girl looks up to and honors her coaches
Just to let you know..a 14 year old girl can’t speak out on her own behalf and that’s why she has parents
Just to let you know…that this parent is unhappy, sad, angry, disheartened, frustrated, disgruntled, upset, broken hearted and can’t keep her mouth shut anymore…it’s officially in writing.
Just to let you know…that a 14 year old girl just wants to leave this behind and try to make the best of her future..so please don’t bother her with this little letter that is from the heart of a parent, that knows the heart of their daughter.
Just to let you know..we have never questioned a 14 year old girls playing time.
To my sweet readers..
Just to let you know… We have a new coach this season that has practically robbed my daughter and some of the others players for that matter..of all of their confidence..my daughter has always been an amazing athlete..We know that there will be bumps in the road..and we thought this would blow over..We are not the kind of parents that think our daughter is “all that” or that she should be front and center..this coach was appointed by my daughters future High School Coach to train the team..we worried that speaking up would ruin any chance of making the team…or making Varsity as a Freshman…so we have not said anything…until now…
Just to let you know… We received a pretty nice email back from the coach… and look forward to the future.. I saw her last night and we discussed matters and departed well…I pray God will use it for His glory…
Just to let you know… This is not school Basketball…this is a “paid” Select team..that trains athletes to achieve the highest levels of the sport..
God gave me this scripture for my daughter and we have held on to it in faith
“Humble yourself before the Lord and in due time He will lift you up” I Peter 5:6
Mama Bear has spoken..
Oh and Just to let you know..my daughter is now on the school team and is a starter.. God will lift you up!
So tell me..What would YOU have done in this situation?